In the past few months I’ve lost 3 people in my life. My father to leukemia in October, my father in law to a heart attack in December, and yesterday, my beautiful 25 year old niece to a car accident. I wish I could feel anything other than what I am feeling right now…such an overwhelming sense of profound sorrow that it hurts. I feel sorrow not only for the loss of such a beautiful, talented and funny young woman, but also for my sister who lost her only daughter yesterday. In this time of grief, my only hope is that people do not preach to my family about their religious beliefs. I know there are many who will think that it is in the best interest of the person grieving to share their “spiritual wisdom” with that person, but that is not the case. A note to religious people: It comes off as rude, uncaring, and self serving when someone forces their beliefs on someone else, especially in a time of grief. So please…Just tell the person you care, that you are there if they need a hug, and show compassion without preaching. As someone who is not religious at all, nothing will make me close off to you more than preaching at me. That’s not me being rude or antagonistic, it’s me stating a fact. We live. We die. And right now, all I can say is this: Death sucks.